We have left our happiness and fulfilled life (professional and personal) to external factors that surround us. So when things go wrong, you know you are not to be blamed or even worse, blame circumstances. We do this inspite of knowing that these factors are not in our control.
We might feel it gives us some comfort in blaming things around us for our unhappiness, but we are gravely wrong. You are only breeding torture that will torment you at a higher degree soon.
When you do not own the blame, you don’t try to fix things.
You might be unhappy about a re-org, or about your team being unaligned to a goal, or your family’s indifference to your emotions and so on. The easiest thing to do is ‘blame them.’ But, I will be surprised if you tell me that puts you in peace with yourself.
Side Note: What keeps you moving, learning and growing are the imperfections and your acknowledgement of them in you and working to fix them. Blame has never helped anything or anyone to move forward unless we took it upon ourselves.